Totally counter-intuitive, but before I begin let me just be clear if you want to get the energy that is sustainable, control caffeine and sugar intake.
Now that I got that out of the way, I am going to tell you what I’ve learned. A few weeks ago I was in the midst of getting 2 boys to graduate school, one senior and another elementary school. At the same time, I was closing on my last coaching program, preparing the stuff to launch my nutrition bar and packing up to move from one coast to another. Add the fact that I quit drinking, and I basically had all the happenings to justify a nervous breakdown. Good news is, I didn’t have one. Bad news, my body paid for it.
What kept me insane?
Before I made any changes because I just couldn’t, I just needed to do what was in front of me and not stress about the fact that I ran out of chlorophyll and couldn’t replenish it because I was moving. I was barely able to keep food down and my appetite was totally depleted. I wasn’t exercising not because I didn’t want to, but because I couldn’t, I mean physically my heart was racing. I would wake up with a heart beat of 107. Just so you can understand how bad that is, a usual resting heart rate is between 52-70. My RHR is usually 68. During this crazy time it was an average of 90-110.
My gut. If you looked at it from the outside it was toned and seemingly healthy. But I can tell you that it wasn’t. I was not sleeping well. I was not focused. And I was definitely not motivated.
So how did I know that came from my gut?
I finally got a grip and got back to my core routines, it was as if I was taking ambien to sleep, zanex to wake up and aderrall to focus. I got back to my supplements. I began to do my meditations and most important I bought all the things that I know help my guts bacteria be healthy, with that I felt the difference in my state of mind.
Here’s my quick go-to when I need energy that doesn’t keep me up at night but keeps me going during the day. And yes, these things help keep a healthy gut too.
Greens: All sorts of greens. This includes: Matcha, chlorophyll, green tea, spirulina, and green veggies (which I am going, to be honest, I didn’t have much because it was awhile before I got access to a fridge and salads in restaurants just don’t interest me)
Oat and things: I absolutely live for my morning concoction of oatmeal, chia seeds, flaxseeds, sunflower seeds, almonds, walnuts, goji berries, coconut oil and water. That’s it. i didn’t have a stove, but for this, no stove needed, just hot water.
Bananas and walnuts: I needed quick energy and quick easy nerve supporting foods. That was bananas and walnuts. Magnesium, potassium and healthy fats.
There you go! Make it simple. Don’t over complicate your meals. Know what you want to achieve and eat for that goal.
When he said this to me it was in the context of the production of my bar. This had me thinking and brings me now, here to this moment. The last time I connected with the Joulebody Community was the first week of May. Since then I have put together all the stuff I learned and wanted to share, but for one reason or another, I was distracted. I wasn’t sure what was going on but I didn’t do anything with the information I wanted to do. Actually, I did, I hoarded the information. I kept it in my notes, my journal, my computer but I didn’t share.
Have you heard Kanye’s new song “Yikes” or maybe you heard about Kate Spade’s taking her life due to her struggle with depression and anxiety? We are so hard on ourselves and sometimes it’s so overwhelming that we have no idea what we need to do to get clear, to be happy and to find a peaceful state of mind. I was always a believer we can best help others when we ourselves have compassion for the pain, the struggle. We have to truly know what it means to love and connect to help ourselves and others.
So I didn’t share what I had because I had to take care of what was in front of me. I needed to take the time to get clarity so that I can move forward from a clear healthy space, and the past few weeks wasn’t that. Some people write their content ahead of time so that moments like I had, when you have no idea what you need to do there is content ready. Me, I work from an authentic space. I feel the need to share from truth, that means I can’t hoard a post, a Vlog or a blog so that on the days I am not feeling I have something. I am ok now. My most recent post is a reminder that every moment is a different one. The smile I have on my face is real. The peace I feel in my mind is real. There is nothing fake about who I am or what I share. I work really hard to learn about what works for me so that I can work with others and support their need to get clear on what works for them.
I had a client recently who hesitated working with me because of she clearly said
I will start when I could do it 100%
There is no 100%, it’s all just showing up. Taking the time to self-actualize. Learning how to be compassionate and to be taken out of comfort. Those are the things you have to be ready to do, but not to be able to do it 100% because as diet plans show you, doing it 100% gives you temporary results that eventually fall short of giving you lifelong success. Now when you get into the core of your habits, your triggers and you become educated on the science that helps support your goal, then you see the results.
I did the prescription medication. I wanted a quick fix to the disturbances I was having in my mind, and I got that but meanwhile, I continued to do my research and I continued to educate myself with doctors and coaches and now I am here. Now I am.
Time isn’t real.
I would be wasting your time with the information you already have or can easily get if you wanted to. I don’t have a staff of writers and researchers. What I do have is my lifelong mission to bring on brain tapping gut healing programs for success.
Hope you know that you only deserve to have the best day ever.
A few days ago I spent my day moving my insurance paperwork from my desk to my bed, to my countertop, to my bag and back to my desk. I am noticing that as I pass the papers from one place to another there is an anxiety in my head on the process that needs to happen for these documents to be complete. I am not sure what the process is, but something needs to happen. What is the outcome that I want? Truthfully, for this to disappear so that I can focus on the things I want to do.
Since last year I have been on a journey of figuring out why it is that I struggle with anxiety? Why do I forget things so easily? Why can’t I read a book that I so want to read? And why is it that as organized as I am some days, others I am totally out of control? I went to my Gynecologist, my internist, my therapist, my dermatologist and my coach to help me make sense of what didn’t seem to be making sense. It has been 6 months since I gave up drinking alcohol, 2 years since I closed Joulebody Cleanse and 2 years since my BF passed away. That’s a lot of the stuff that was keeping me in a total state of anxiety and stress, a feeling that I was familiar with. A peaceful state of mind is something I only touched upon after meditation, exercising, and sometimes at bedtime, other than that I pretty much managed my life from the place of needing not wanting.
Without my BF and my wine (or martini, depends on the night) I was able to hear what was actually going on in my mind. I was able to notice my behavior, my reactions, my emotions, my strengths and my weaknesses. It wasn’t until I had nothing to numb the “craziness” in my head that I realized how scattered I was at times and yet others I was extremely organized. I began to visit my doctors more, meditate longer and write daily. I had intimate conversations with my husband about what was going on in my head. How I struggled to get things done when I don’t know how I need to do it. I struggle writing in words that make sense to anyone other than me. And now I know why.
As I began to let go of the numbing things in my life, I began to bring in higher vibrating habits. I got back into strength training, running, it seems that is one of the things that helps me declutter my thoughts. I began to meditate consistently, not allowing any excuse to stop me from practicing and I began to watch more closely what I was eating.
My last visit to my internist led her to believe that I should be re-evaluated for ADD. I had been diagnosed with slight ADD when I was a trainer at Equinox many years ago. I took her advice because I could feel like something was just not right. A few days ago I got the results. Yup, I had ADD, actually high-level ADD but what was surprising is that she diagnosed me with ADHD. That made me really sad, confused and well, sad. I had been so hard on myself for so long on why I didn’t understand things or why I couldn’t read a book. When I was in middle school I remember walking out of the class because I felt like I was going to go insane. I went to the bathroom 100 times a day just to get out. I began high school and begged them to put me in special ed where my friends were because I felt like the work they were doing was more comprehensive than what I was learning. And now here I was with a better understanding of how my brain works.
Yesterday was the first day since my diagnosis that the scatteredness in my brain began to happen. I had a few administrative things to do that required me to focus and so I moved the papers from here to there and back again until finally, I decided to take a nap. I am so grateful I created a company that allows me to work from home at times and some freedom to take a break. I know that people like my husband gets frustrated because he feels like we have to stop coddling, but if we can why shouldn’t we?
As I go on this journey of personal growth and self-actualization I know that I am going to find out more and more about, how much I had to overcome, and how I did things that would seem challenging but I did it anyway. My mom’s reaction to my diagnosis was
Well they are quick to put a label on people now a days.
At first, I was disappointed because if she knew me like really knew me she would know that I was always hyper and easily distracted. Then I surrendered her comment. It doesn’t change me. It doesn’t belong to me. I am finally at the mercy of my own judgments not the opinions of others and it feels good.
I was sad because I had been so hard on myself. I am happy because now I just go
Oh boy. My head a little scattered today. It’s a day for whatever.
And like my husband says,
Just create a list of what needs to get done and let go of the rest.
So I did just that yesterday and today I tackled college apps, insurance forms, and work. I did some writing and meditating. I have no intention of medicating myself but I know now why people do. Becuase if they don’t have the time and space, then it’s difficult to say
Today I can’t go to work because my brain is a bit scattered.
I do have a little routine that seems to be getting me to not be caught up in the scatteredness of my brain for too long. Here it is. Of course if you decide to do any of these, talk to your doctor first. What works for me may not work for you and hopefully, you have a good doctor that understands your needs.
vit B complex
These are my go to and when all fails, like it did yesterday I surrender and take a break. I find something to do that doesn’t require much of my brain space like connecting, shopping, researching, and other things. There are always plenty of things to do that keep us in a higher vibrational frequency and allows us to continue to go into the path of personal growth.
I recommend learning about how your brain works and your gut health so that you are feeling more at peace with the way you are getting things done.
How many excuses I allow to get in the way of what it is I truly want.
It’s great to know things, however, it only works if it’s put into action. That takes work from both your body & mind.
I create and promote what I myself have found success in doing. So when I share something with you, know that I myself have put it into action. There are things I have tried that just didn’t do it for me like
I go out and try it. And for me, positive affirmations do not work. What does work for me are things like detoxing, journaling, running, intentional movements and nutrition.
I recently started noticing my patterns. The chats I have with myself or really close friends/family that love me dearly and will always allow me space to not do something I am uncomfortable with. It became my ritual whenever I was looking for a way out to call the people that love me. But it hasn’t helped me reach my goal. In fact, it has done the exact opposite of that. It has kept me further from all it is I’ve been working for.
So now I am showing up. Not when I want to, but when I need to.
JOURNAL: Use the journal to write out your goals!
Whether it’s food diaries (i.e. what you ate, when, how does it make you feel, cravings, gut issues, etc), to mood journaling, whatever it is, I find it is helpful to track my patterns. What is it that makes me feel best and what brings me down, that included people, food, and work.
Hands down, by far, the best thing I do for my body & mind is this. It really helps me reconnect with “me”. As you should with “you”.
Sitting and focusing on the inhales and exhales of your breath. Let the chatter come, but keep still in your body. However, make this practice yours and whatever you see the best results to be.
I totally need the morning to be a little of my time. Before the demands of the family or work I take this time to be grateful for another moment, because
Starting your day in abundance creates expansioni n your body & mind to receive all the opportunites and amazingness coming your way.
Hear negative self-talk in your mind? Have doubt? Fear? Anxiety? Overwhelm about reaching your goals or getting off track? I ask my clients to create a mantra or an affirmation for themselves to repeat at times they need it most. Something that inspires them on the importance of reaching their goals. And of course I do as they do, so I definitely have my mantra:
I am success. I am love. I am smart.
BE REAL WITH GOALS
Sometimes we truly just set ourselves up for failure. We create these HUGE expectations for ourselves and follow “The Secret” in thinking we can manifest our dreams when we want it how we want it. Well I’m here to tell you absolutely only works if you do not deviate from the path and if you are anything like me, you like to take detours and U-turns and lefts & rights because if you are like me then you question your goal and if it’s possible and do you deserve it and all those other questions that come up as you get closer and closer to your reality.
Here’s what I have to say is the trick to resolving that:
Allow the chatter to happen. However don’t let it get in the way of your intentions (goals) You deserve a beautiful life. Take the time to transform your body & mind so that you can manifest your dreams. Make your intentions come to life.
If you want to get started on creating and manifesting your goals, here’s a worksheet I created to help you get started. Remember, this is your own unique journey. The stories you hear are to inspire you or to help you stay away from mistakes made by others, but whatever road you choose to get to your goal is yours to take. As long as you keep on dreaming, keep on reaching, and taking action, you will get there.
Education means nothing without execution. So if you have the information great. But it only works if you put it into action