Totally counter-intuitive, but before I begin let me just be clear if you want to get the energy that is sustainable, control caffeine and sugar intake.
Now that I got that out of the way, I am going to tell you what I’ve learned. A few weeks ago I was in the midst of getting 2 boys to graduate school, one senior and another elementary school. At the same time, I was closing on my last coaching program, preparing the stuff to launch my nutrition bar and packing up to move from one coast to another. Add the fact that I quit drinking, and I basically had all the happenings to justify a nervous breakdown. Good news is, I didn’t have one. Bad news, my body paid for it.
What kept me insane?
Before I made any changes because I just couldn’t, I just needed to do what was in front of me and not stress about the fact that I ran out of chlorophyll and couldn’t replenish it because I was moving. I was barely able to keep food down and my appetite was totally depleted. I wasn’t exercising not because I didn’t want to, but because I couldn’t, I mean physically my heart was racing. I would wake up with a heart beat of 107. Just so you can understand how bad that is, a usual resting heart rate is between 52-70. My RHR is usually 68. During this crazy time it was an average of 90-110.
My gut. If you looked at it from the outside it was toned and seemingly healthy. But I can tell you that it wasn’t. I was not sleeping well. I was not focused. And I was definitely not motivated.
So how did I know that came from my gut?
I finally got a grip and got back to my core routines, it was as if I was taking ambien to sleep, zanex to wake up and aderrall to focus. I got back to my supplements. I began to do my meditations and most important I bought all the things that I know help my guts bacteria be healthy, with that I felt the difference in my state of mind.
Here’s my quick go-to when I need energy that doesn’t keep me up at night but keeps me going during the day. And yes, these things help keep a healthy gut too.
- Greens: All sorts of greens. This includes: Matcha, chlorophyll, green tea, spirulina, and green veggies (which I am going, to be honest, I didn’t have much because it was awhile before I got access to a fridge and salads in restaurants just don’t interest me)
- Oat and things: I absolutely live for my morning concoction of oatmeal, chia seeds, flaxseeds, sunflower seeds, almonds, walnuts, goji berries, coconut oil and water. That’s it. i didn’t have a stove, but for this, no stove needed, just hot water.
- Bananas and walnuts: I needed quick energy and quick easy nerve supporting foods. That was bananas and walnuts. Magnesium, potassium and healthy fats.
There you go! Make it simple. Don’t over complicate your meals. Know what you want to achieve and eat for that goal.
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I was sitting with a group of woman listening to their stories. Watching their bodies shift in discomfort when they were asked to do something that would take them outside of who they already know themselves as was especially interesting to me because that was me. I was the one that spoke loudly and argued my point and had criticisms for anyone who went against me or tried to tell me what I should do when in fact I already knew what I needed to do because right now at this moment I know me.
Let me see if I can articulate what it is I am getting at. Ever find yourself in a sticky situation and someone gives you advice and it sounds like good guidance however you are not willing to accept it as a possibility because what they are asking of you is to be someone other than the person you currently are? The person you are is one that is used to drama, confusion, anxiety, and lot’s of stress. Peace and happiness is not something that is familiar, because well if you believed like I did that state of mind only happens to the rich and famous. So here this person who took the time to listen to my situation and was kind enough to give me advice to only get my response to be…
you just don’t understand. You aren’t in my situation. You don’t know what it takes to be able to get out of this situation because you’re not me.
There is such a beauty with this new generation. They are reminding us the importance of care,
Care can only happen from me to you, if I take care of me first.
Listening is powerful. If you listen to yourself speak in reaction to someone else’s comments. If you listen to someone else’s comments in response to your sharing. If you do these in synch with each other you will notice where healing is coming from next. I mean when I watch the dynamic of these women I sat with listening to their confusions, insecurities and the inability to see things differently, I didn’t judge them, however, I took a look at me. I asked myself how often had I done that. And when I do that what is it that I am not willing to see. What is this person saying to me that triggered me to react in such a way that at times I just want to rip their head off?
Listening is an art. It’s an art that is helpful to our own self-awareness.
Listening is the only time we can be moved and be in stillness at the same time.
So what I learned by watching these woman that I sat with was how I reacted to someone commenting against my advice, how my body cringed listening to how often negative comments were made on a circumstance, i mean like over and over again. The theme seemed to be
I am broke. I have no money. I’m not making money.
And finally watching someone go from stone cold,
Wow. Yeah well I guess I am resisting that. Maybe I do need to work on it.
The difference in all of it was me. I no longer looked at each of the women and questioned their lives or their actions but instead, I looked at what I can do to improve my thoughts, make sure my words were coming out with the clear intention of what I intend on manifesting for me. If I am saying I can’t do this or I am not smart enough for that or I don’t have the money for this, then I am setting myself up for just that. When I sit in a room with a bunch of woman listening to me and ready to give me feedback and comments I at least owe them the time to listen to what they are saying. Then take that information and decide what to do with it.
I have been practicing this whole idea of “speak it to action”, “cause and effect,” and “law of attraction”. All of them basically lead to the same idea, I am in control of what happens in my life. I can only identify with what they are saying because it’s an opportunity for growth and healing. I have a strong desire to manifest a life filled with peace and happiness. By listening to others I have the opportunity to see my own journey within theirs. I no longer assume I am separate from them, the idea of duality does not exist for me. I am non-dual, therefore I listen to what you have to say and how you say it.
I was having a conversation with my husband about last weeks coaching sessions. I told him how I spent most of my time helping clients set their goals. And out of the eight people I coached, six of them came to the conclusion that happiness was their goal and all of them wanted balance. His reaction was
Well that isn’t going to happen. What’s there to be happy about?
My coaching session with each client began with where they are in their well-being. Then we started the work on their goal for manifesting better health. This question may sound weird. I actually had to think about the law of attraction to understand what it meant to manifest but also so that I can explain it to a client and they can be clear why this is important information to know.
What I’ve learned is that happiness is a state of mind and if there’s anything blocking that happiness from happening then we will constantly seek ways to reach that happiness. I know there are many ways people use to reach happiness that works just fine for their goals, but for me what I’ve learned about finding happiness is that my body and mind need to be taken care of and that is how I coach my clients. There are quick fix pills, drinks, drugs, and foods that can help you reach that happy state of mind, but it’s temporary and it makes you rely on something other than yourself, which doesn’t always work. Imagine if you were in charge of how you feel. Imagine if you were able to determine your happiness and be in control of how you feel. There’s not a person or a thing that does that for you other than you. I have learned in my years that this was one of the best gifts I can give myself. It sounds strange but when you think about it, the craziness in our world of politics isn’t going anywhere, our lack of control of the weather isn’t going to change and our ability to foresee what the future holds in our finances or health isn’t going to change and to my husband’s point, with all of these obstacles how can I dare say to these clients that happiness is a possible goal.
I spent most of 2016 alone. I don’t mean physically alone, I mean emotionally alone. I needed to. I needed to retreat in order to figure out my life and where it was going. I had a nice home life, a great family, and good solid friendships but at the same time I lost my best friend to brain cancer and closed my company due to a breakdown so happiness seemed like a term I couldn’t really connect with. I did say “I’m grateful” a lot, but I wasn’t sure about happy? I don’t think I was happy. At that time I based my happiness on the success of my company my families healthy habits, my relationships with my mom, my friends and everyone in between. I also later found out that I was in perimenopause, the stage women go through before menopause. That means my hormones were out of wack, lack of progesterone making my estrogen levels high. Bottom-line if I wanted to be happy I needed to know how I can do that with my own body and mind. After a full year of putting that into practice, I know the importance of staying connected with “me” to know more about what I need to show up a better person for those around me and what I can do to be happy when there is no one other than me to make it happen.
As a wellness coach, I live and breath the science and spirituality of body/mind transformation. I have put every bit of extra time into workshops and seminars and books to stay informed and educated on the latest studies and stories that support theories on the law of attraction using body-mind practices.
Happiness is not just a feeling that happens, hormones have to be released the brain needs to be triggered and then a reaction happens. I look at the body as a machine and the brain as it’s engine. If your brain isn’t able to process the hormones that make you feel good properly then you may find yourself constantly seeking the feel-good emotions from things like food and pills. We are chemical beings and if we are feeding the body bad chemicals that react to the good chemicals, then you are likely not going to have happiness in your life that is longer than the moments you give it sugar or alcohol or a pill. Happiness becomes natural when we learn how to use what we feed our bodies and minds to benefit our goal of happiness.
I was forced to learn about my new hormone challenge that causes feelings of depression and heightens anxiety at the same time deal with the darkness of closing my company and losing a best friend meanwhile wanting the feeling of happiness. I took on the challenge and began researching my nutrition essentials and the kind of exercises I should do to stay basically “sane” hoping happiness would follow. It took a year of self-exploration and studies to create a system that worked and what that system involved was wellness rituals.
My response to my husband on
Is happiness possible?
Yes! Absolutely, but you have to want it enough to live a mindful lifestyle to have it.
If you want to be happy follow these simple things daily:
- a gut healing diet plan everyday!
- take time out to connect with your body and mind through meditation
- exercise frequently, for some that means taking a brisk walk for others that means going for a run or strength training, either way, move your body daily
There are a lot of products to buy for your total wellbeing. If you give into all of them, or even some of them you may find yourself in debt with lot’s of products and no idea what to do with them. For me, I want to know that my gut and heart are in good health. With these two things being super healthy, then pretty much my mind and body feel great. Keeping free from anxiety, stress and anything that keeps me in low vibration.
Have the time to don’t have time to make “Instagram ready” acai bowls or protein bowls or smoothies is not realistic for some of us. However, our bodies need attention. It needs nutrition. And even when we are on the go, it needs to know that wer are going to look out for our bodies and minds.
I have a list on my Amazon Business Page that Amazon now allows me to share. Here’s the link. Remember to always consult a doctor before you start any new supplements. This list has a lot of my favorite products, but I wanted to share with you some of my almost daily go to. There are 5 main ingredients I use in things like my oatmeal, supplements, or salads.
These are the things I use in my day to day to keep me calm, creative and focused and ultimately making decisions that keep me slim and healthy.
Spirulina Tablets 500mg — Spirulina is your go to if you want to get healthier. It helps the body in a wide variety of ways, including providing the body with energy, warding off free radicals and eliminating toxins from the skin, increasing skin metabolism to enable faster skin cell turnover and skin healing, and helping prevent candida bacteria overgrowth.
Organic Virgin Coconut Oil — Coconut oil has so many benefits. It keeps you healthy and slim, it has lauric acid, the immune supporting nutrient, Packed full of healthy fats that are good for your heart, organic coconut oil is a great addition to your daily diet, can help you feel less fatigued and require less sleep by stimulating your metabolism. It can also enhance athletic performance and it helps to stimulate the activity and proper functioning of this important gland which provides energy supports the health of your skin and metabolism and keeps your moods in balance. These are some of the reasons why I like to have it on my wellness list.
Turmeric – Largely due to its curcumin content, Turmeric is often credited with these benefits, Fighting inflammation, it’s an antioxidant, Protects the heart in various ways, helpful for arthritis, brain-boosting and it may be helpful for fighting diabetes and cancer.
Chia and flax seed – Chia seeds are an unprocessed, whole-grain food that can be absorbed by the body as seeds (unlike flaxseeds). One ounce (about 2 tablespoons) contains 139 calories, 4 grams of protein, 9 grams fat, 12 grams carbohydrates and 11 grams of fiber, plus vitamins and minerals.
5-HTP 100 mg — dietary supplements help raise serotonin levels in the brain. Since serotonin helps regulate mood and behavior, 5–HTP may have a positive effect on sleep, mood, anxiety, appetite, and pain sensation. 5–HTP is not found in the foods we eat, although tryptophan is found in foods.
Holy Basil Tea –Holy basil is a plant. It is originally from India and is used in Ayurvedic medicine as an “adaptogen” to counter life’s stresses. It is considered a sacred plant by the Hindus and is often planted around Hindu shrines. The Hindu name for holy basil, Tulsi, means “the incomparable one.
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